{"id":4408,"date":"2026-04-16T20:17:27","date_gmt":"2026-04-16T20:17:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/?p=4408"},"modified":"2026-04-16T20:17:27","modified_gmt":"2026-04-16T20:17:27","slug":"ayrilik-sonrasi-yara-bandi-iliskilerine-dikkat-uzmanlardan-duygusal-yikim-uyarisi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/?p=4408","title":{"rendered":"Ayr\u0131l\u0131k Sonras\u0131 ‘Yara Band\u0131’ \u0130li\u015fkilerine Dikkat: Uzmanlardan Duygusal Y\u0131k\u0131m Uyar\u0131s\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

HABER MERKEZ\u0130<\/strong> \u2013 Modern ili\u015fkilerde ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 olu\u015fan bo\u015fluk hissi ve yaln\u0131zl\u0131k korkusu, bireyleri h\u0131zla yeni bir ba\u011f kurmaya y\u00f6nlendiriyor. \u0130li\u015fki dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda “telafi edici (rebound) ili\u015fkiler” olarak tan\u0131mlanan bu s\u00fcre\u00e7, uzmanlara g\u00f6re do\u011fru y\u00f6netilmedi\u011finde ciddi psikolojik hatalara ve duygusal y\u0131k\u0131mlara zemin haz\u0131rlayabiliyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Duygusal Ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f m\u0131, Yeni Bir Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 m\u0131?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u0130li\u015fki stratejisti Emily Conway, ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 ba\u015flayan her ili\u015fkinin pe\u015finen “sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z” olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclmemesi gerekti\u011fini belirtiyor. Conway, temel ayr\u0131m\u0131n ki\u015finin motivasyonunda yatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 vurgulayarak \u015fu de\u011ferlendirmeyi yap\u0131yor:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“Duygusal d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fckle ve beklentilerini y\u00f6neterek yeni bir ba\u011f kuran birey, bu s\u00fcre\u00e7ten kazan\u00e7l\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kabilir. Ancak ac\u0131dan ka\u00e7mak i\u00e7in ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 kullananlar, bast\u0131rd\u0131klar\u0131 ac\u0131n\u0131n ileride kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131na \u00e7ok daha sert bir \u015fekilde \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmelidir.”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Uzmanlar, zorlay\u0131c\u0131 duygularla y\u00fczle\u015fmek yerine yas s\u00fcrecini baypas etmeyi hedefleyen ba\u011flar\u0131n, uzun vadede daha b\u00fcy\u00fck hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131na yol a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131 konusunda hemfikir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En B\u00fcy\u00fck Stratejik Hata: K\u0131yas Terazisi<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar ve uzman g\u00f6zlemleri, bu tip ili\u015fkilerde yap\u0131lan en yayg\u0131n ve y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 hatan\u0131n “k\u0131yaslama” oldu\u011funu ortaya koyuyor. Yeni partneri, biten ili\u015fkinin eski \u00f6znesiyle s\u00fcrekli kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rmak, ili\u015fkinin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir zemine oturmas\u0131n\u0131 engelliyor. Uzmanlar, bu durumun hem yeni partnere kar\u015f\u0131 adaletsiz oldu\u011funu hem de ki\u015finin duygusal olarak h\u00e2l\u00e2 ge\u00e7mi\u015fe ba\u011fl\u0131 oldu\u011funun en net kan\u0131t\u0131 oldu\u011funu belirtiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Karar Vermeden \u00d6nce Sorulmas\u0131 Gereken Kritik Soru<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 yeni bir yola girmeden \u00f6nce bireyin kendine sormas\u0131 gereken temel bir soru bulundu\u011fu vurgulan\u0131yor: “Yeni biri i\u00e7in ger\u00e7ekten orada m\u0131s\u0131n, yoksa zihnen hala son ki\u015fi i\u00e7in mi oradas\u0131n?”<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uzmanlar, bu soruya verilecek d\u00fcr\u00fcst yan\u0131t\u0131n, yeni bir ili\u015fkiye ba\u015flama zaman\u0131n\u0131n gelip gelmedi\u011fini belirleyen en g\u00fcvenilir pusula oldu\u011funu ifade ediyor. Do\u011fru bir zihin yap\u0131s\u0131yla kurulan ili\u015fkiler, bazen ki\u015finin beklentilerini netle\u015ftirmesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olsa da, eksik b\u0131rak\u0131lan yas s\u00fcrecinin her zaman bir risk fakt\u00f6r\u00fc olarak kalmaya devam edece\u011fi hat\u0131rlat\u0131l\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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HABER MERKEZ\u0130 \u2013 Modern ili\u015fkilerde ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 olu\u015fan bo\u015fluk hissi ve yaln\u0131zl\u0131k korkusu, bireyleri h\u0131zla yeni bir ba\u011f kurmaya y\u00f6nlendiriyor. \u0130li\u015fki dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda “telafi edici (rebound) ili\u015fkiler” olarak tan\u0131mlanan bu s\u00fcre\u00e7, uzmanlara g\u00f6re do\u011fru y\u00f6netilmedi\u011finde ciddi psikolojik hatalara ve duygusal y\u0131k\u0131mlara zemin haz\u0131rlayabiliyor. Duygusal Ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f m\u0131, Yeni Bir Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 m\u0131? \u0130li\u015fki stratejisti Emily Conway, ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 ba\u015flayan […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":4409,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[39],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4408","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-saglik-haberleri"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/8d730a27-bcd1-49f0-9ef7-7dcc46cd329d.jpg.webp","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4408","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4408"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4408\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4410,"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4408\/revisions\/4410"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4409"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4408"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4408"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odakhaber.site\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4408"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}